The Professional

In Anjappar, when Animal Planet is ripped to bones, Abdul started the topic about the book he read recently. It is High Performance Entrepreneur by Subroto Bagchi. Inspired by the content, I thought of reading it. Next day, I was talking to big brother and said about this book. He told me that there are three books written by Bagchi and The Professional is very good and it defines who is a professional.
 

The Professional. From my adult hood, I was attracted by this word. I donno may be this is due to the movies I have seen. Where the marksmen do the job neatly and the investigator’s next dialogue will be “It’s done by a professional”. So immediately I have ordered the book and now reading it.
 

It’s a good book and defines the qualities of a professional. I have few qualities and now I want to fill the gap. I hope soon I’ll be a professional :)

How to handle dominating people?

It happens in every man’s life. When the people are in upper hand, they used to slam the people who work under them in bad words. The workers or less privileged people have to bear with that. What we need to do if we are in such situation? I came to know the following story. After that I never worried about the dominating people.

Here is the story (remember that I am not good at story telling and excuse grammatical errs),

One day Buddha and his sishya went to a house and begged for food. The lady from the house came and bashed with words like you guys are lethargic, why don’t you guys work and earn money. Buddha was not disturbed by those words. He smiled. But his sishya got angry, he asked his master to allow him to bash that lady. Buddha dint say anything. He just gave his kamandalam to the sishya and left from that place.

That day night when Buddha and his sishya were discussing, the sishya asked his master that why he didn’t allow him to bash that lady. Then Buddha asked him where the kamandalam is? The sishya brought it. Then Buddha asked who owns this kamandalam? The sishya said that it’s yours master. But Buddha said that he already gave this to him on morning, so it is his. The sishya said that you gave it to me, but I didn’t accept it. So it is yours only master. Now Buddha explained that when someone is bashing you with bad words, don’t be angry. If you accept it, then it belongs to you. Otherwise it belongs to them only.

True. The story nicely explains how we need to stand against such situations. So guys how do you feel?

When life becomes interesting?

Its been a long time I blogged. I was busy with work and in mean time kept myself busy with Chess and movies. Mostly the time was spent in Chesscube. In a couple of months I played 4300 games in Chesscube. Frequently played 10sec+1 games. Then in rest of the time watched the movies in categorized manner like heist movies, western sphagetti movies etc. So I didnt get bored in the life. My colleague RMN used say that am enjoying the bachelor life too much and get married soon.

Ok. Thats the story why I didnt blog for a while. Coming to the point, when life becomes interesting? Based on perspectives, we can have hell lot of answers for this. I am going to tell one.

It occurred to me, when my big brother told me that, I am not good at people handling, so you should move towards technically. I realized that every human in this world is different and they have unique characteristics. Everyday we'll be interacting with lot of people, they'll have unique attitude and characteristics. The beauty of life is how we handle those people. So life becomes interesting when we got to know the pattern of the people and guessing what they'll do next.

Here are some interesting characteristics,

• short tempered
• speaking unnecessary content
• always late. no time conscious

Like this we can list millions of characteristics. But based on them we can form a pattern and we can guess what they'll do next. This concept is not new. But try it. Life becomes interesting :)

Happiness revisited

I know I am missing something. Like I am not happy or satisfied like when I was in my boyhood. In schooldays getting pocket money is difficult, if I get so eating chocolates, pocket ices, etc made me happier and satisfied. And in those days the weekends and holidays are the golden days. More eagerly waiting for weekends and playing cricket all the day made me wonderful.

Now I can eat anything I want. But not interested to eat snacks. Now I can buy any sports goods, but am not playing. Those days the hot summer doesn’t bothered me. Whatever it is I played and enjoyed. So whats happened? When I am growing up, I am loosing those happiest moments.

I know that I am not happy or satisfied with the current life. So I tried to explore it further. I tried to capture waht is missing and that’s why my earlier blog ‘happiness’ was. I donno whats missing. But I feel that its missing.

Couple of weeks back when myself and my friend Theiveegam were having the snack in some petti shop, I told him that in childhood if I get a Koli Kundu I will be happy like anything. Now I have Bose speakers, still not feeling that much. He also felt the same. That time I saw two boys (age will be around 12) who are working in some small shops came to the petti shop and bought the evening snacks for their owners or co-workers. That time they ate few snacks over there and packed the remaining and went out. I observed this and told to Theiveegam, that if you buy snacks for 10 bucks for the boys, they will be delighted. But you will never feel happy like them even though you get lacs of money.

I got to know what I am missing when I read the forwarded article of Suki Sivam. It filled my gap. There was a story that explained me clearly. I am not good at story telling. Hope you'll understand the story.

There was a kingdom. The king is not happier due to his enemies and kingdom problem. But he saw that one of the security people is happy and doing his job happily. So he asked that security person, how he is happy.

The security person said that he is getting enough money and he has a shelter to live, with money he can have enough food for his family. So he doesn’t have any worries.

The king called his advisor and told this to him. The advisor told to king that he is not in ‘99 gold coins’ club. So he is happy.

King asked the advisor what is ‘99 gold coins’ club. Advisor said that he will explain practically. And he put 99 gold coins in a bag and placed in front of the security person’s house. The next day the security when he is going to palace found that bag. He counted the coins. It is 99. So he thought that there is a missing coin. So he searched the surrounding places and could not find that one gold coin.

Then he had hidden that bag in his house. Now his worry is on making the 99 gold coins to 100 gold coins. So he worked hard and asked his family members also to work. Daily he was worried about the safety of the gold coins. So he was monitoring the gold coins in the night, and last sleep. Now he is not happy in his work and his life. Always he thought of making 100 gold coins. He was not happy with having 99 gold coins.

The King’s advisor told the king that now he joined the ‘99 gold coins’ club.

In our childhood we are happy with what we got. But now we are trying to make 99 gold coins to 100. So we are not happy or satisfied now. When we grow our expectations are also growing. After riding cycle, we want bike, then car and then luxurious car and then apartment etc. The list is never ending one.(Still I am thinking of buying BULLET :) ). And we are not happy with current job. Worrying on upcoming recessions, financial crisis etc. We are always worrying for that 1 gold coin. We are not happy with what we got and expecting more beyond that.

I think the point is made.

The Pianist

I thought it is a musical film. So I thought of seeing this later. But after seeing this movie as a favorite movie in one of my colleague's blog profile, I watched this movie.

Its not a musical film, which I thought earlier. Its about the survival of a Jewish musician at the time of World War II after the invasion of Germans in Poland. The film showcases many horrors done by Germans like killing, beating & burning of Jews. I am unable to see the film once the Germans started torturing the Jews. Its horrible (May be I am light hearted? 8-) ). I wonder how the kid saw the movie.

The hero hides in an apartment and struggles for food. At one point of time he drinks the unclean water, eats rotten potato. After seeing this I thought how we are gifted.

We, the software engineers, are not starving from food. We really dont know the worth of a single piece of meal. If you ask any software engineer, how his canteen food he will tell that it is the most crap food and they wont eat what they take in their plate. Most of the people are wasting the food in the office. In our office canteen they used to display the amount of cumulative and daily food wastage. Mostly it will be 25kg per day.

In the film, The Pianist, at one scene a family of 5 people will share one piece of caramel. Here is a picture which got Pulitzer prize and showing a hungry children.

Most of the people in this world are starving for food. But here we are wasting kilos of food. If one person wastes a meal, its like he obstructed another perons's meal. After seeing this movie, I sworn myself that here after I wont waste food. Atleast it is a good thing I am doing.

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

Even though I read this book earlier, I have experienced this yesterday only. May be before that I didn’t realized.

I just returned from work and entered the home. My mom told me that the gas lighter was fell down and the handle was broken. She was trying to explain more. But I interrupted her and said, “Don’t worry mom, I will get you new one”.

I thought this will cool her. But the effect was reverse. She said “Am I dumb? Why you are trying to stop me? I should not talk?”. Really I didn’t get what she meant.

She continued. “Morning you wake up early and going to yoga. After returning you are rushing to office. And you are back at night only. Only this time I can speak to you. That time also you are stopping me to speak.”

I realized what she meant. Here she is not worried about the broken thing. She is using that has some topic and trying to speak to me little.

I ashamed that I am not spending quite a lot time with her. Hardly I am available home in weekends. Weekdays most of the time goes in office and other activities. So she wants me to spend some time with her.

As said by John Grey in ‘Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus’, a man wants to help a woman feel better by solving her problems. He feels he can be valued and thus worthy of her love when his abilities are used to solve her problems. He has no idea that by just listening with empathy and interest he can be supportive.

This is the reality. What I understood was my mom is asking for a solution. But she wants me to spend some time with her. Now I realized this. Now trying to leave office earlier :)

Happiness

What is happiness? When a person feels that he is the happiest person in the world?

Everyone thinks happiness in their own way. If you ask a jobless man, he would say that he would be happy if he gets a job. Ask an unmarried man, he would say that he would be happy if he gets married. Ask a person who is seeking love from a girl; he would say that he would die for getting the love.

Everyone has their own list. And they will feel happy when their desire becomes fulfilled. But after their desires are got fulfilled are they really happy? Definitely no. Their list grows. And they are not happy anymore.

See the pattern of their desire; they are seeking what they don’t have. If their desire comes fulfilled they will be happy; otherwise not. Unfulfilled desires make their life misery.

How a man will be happier ever? If he has desires which can be fulfilled. Or he is happy with what he got.

If we understand this we will be happier ever. This point is said by most of the yogis. As said by Gowthama Budhdha, unfulfilled desires are the reasons for misery. It is said in first poet of Thuravu adhigaram in Thurukkural. When I read that poet in my childhood, I didn’t get the real meaning. Now I got it.

So I just started to live happy with what I got. Not expecting any more and not having desires which can’t be fulfilled.